Love Letters to a Unicorn. Fetlife Protest Is Not Just a “Feminist Thing”

Love Letters to a Unicorn. Fetlife Protest Is Not Just a “Feminist Thing”

Kink from a Subnmissive’s Perspective

For anybody new to Fetlife, it really is a media that are social for kinky people (kinky defined really broadly).

Presently, there is certainly a band of individuals of undetermined size that are about to temporarily deactivate their records at the conclusion of April being a protest for some regarding the present policies and procedures on Fetlife. The site has grown exponentially with folks looking to explore some part of kink in the last couple of years as kink has become incredibly popular in the mass media. Because will any team that grows quickly you will find growing discomforts including wanting to show newbies the norms of this team.

For kinky people that are typically in the scene for over days gone by 5 years, we’d communities which boundaries that are prioritized permission. We taught the trickle of newbies concerning the need for boundaries and permission and corrected them if they violated these norms.

Aided by the influx that is massive of people, they’ve brought the norms of wider US (and also to some degree British and Canadian norms). For many of us who possess watched this, we now have seen more consent and violations which are boundary struggled with how to approach these problems.

I’d like to get this clear right now- only a few boundary and consent violations are equal. They all are essential. We notice a difference that is clear an on-line account consistently delivering creepy unwelcome messages to some body being raped during a get play scene. Both must be addressed and avoided (when possible) however they are instead of the scale that is same.


A great deal regarding the what exactly is being protested ( not stated explicitly) may be the not enough ability to redress violations that are boundary. Read More